I turned 38 recently, and in the midst of some massive life changes I have been thinking about the body I have walked around in for all that time.
I’ve thought terrible things about that body, and I have treated it very badly for an awful lot of those years.
My baby is about to turn 4. My body, which grew, birthed and nurtured 4 children has returned to me after a decade of belonging to other people. I have such gratitude for those babies and those years, but I am so ready for my body to belong only to me once more.
But a lot of people seem to think that they have a right to an opinion on what I do with my body. And I am here to tell them that THEY DO NOT.
I’ve been running for a couple of years now and I love what it has done for me physically and mentally. I have also been plagued by injury, and so I have started Crossfit and lifting to build strength. And I have loved that so much that I’m undertaking a program that is designed to change body composition and build muscle.
And doesn’t THAT freak people out?!
As a woman and a mother, I am expected to look a certain way at this stage of my life. I really thought those days were long gone but apparently not. I have been asked so many times WHY I would want to do this. Don’t I know it is not very feminine? Don’t I care that my biceps will be more eye catching than my boobs? Do I not understand that stripping fat will leave me with an androgynous or WORSE super muscular body?
It pisses me off.
If I want to go hard and be a body builder then I WILL DO THAT. My personal goals aren’t at that level, but who cares? HOW I LOOK AND HOW I WANT TO LOOK IS MY BUSINESS.
What I do with my body is up to me. If I want to show it off then I will. If my idea of beauty includes a 6 pack then that is FINE. If I want to lift heavy then I will lift heavy because I know it will increase my muscle mass.
And you know what? It is really hard for women to ‘get bulky’. Like really hard. Lifting heavy increases your metabolism and will define your body in the way that you decide you want it to. So if someone has built muscle that is noticeable, it is not some accident, they did that on purpose. And they worked for it. Hard.
Bulking up is not something that I personally want to do, but if YOU do then YOU SHOULD DO THAT. And if I am that concerned about my boobs, I can always buy some new ones. And if I buy some new ones that is MY choice about how I want to look and nothing to do with you. You DO NOT get a say in what I think of my body. Not any more, not ever again.
And if the first thing you do when you look at me is judge how I treat my body, that is YOUR problem not mine. My body belongs to me, who I share it with is my choice, how it looks is within my control not yours, and if you have any feelings about that then maybe YOU need to go have a good hard look in the mirror yourself.
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